It's been almost a month since my last post. Between my new career and all the drama with my daughter it's been hard finding the time to sit down and write about the thing that stresses me out the most.
My daughter's life, as always is filled with nothing but DRAMA. It's because of the people she call's friends who she has chosen to put her trust in that her life has been turned topsy turvy. She has such a good heart and she is very loyal to the people she cares about, its just they don't care for her the same way and they sure are not loyal!
Anyway she has moved into a big house on a beautiful lake and she is waiting for one of the roommates to move in. He has been nothing but trouble and in the meantime she told Dipshit (or little shit or whatever I call him these days) to take a hike. He takes her out of town for her birthday and they have a real nice time only for him to give her that old line the day after of "can't we start over and just be friends." She tells him, "I'm sorry, but I can't be just friends so we can either start over and you can date me or we will just decide to date other people." I don't think he liked her answer, so what does he do? Has a freaking fit. So now she has not seen him in 3 weeks. He actually text-ed her yesterday and asked her if she had saved him a turkey leg. She did not respond. Then tonite he text-ed her again and asked her what she was doing. Of course she has no plans, but she told him she was going out with her girlfriends.
For once I would like to be wrong about someone. Just once. I had him pegged from the beginning as a Player, even though I kept hoping to be wrong.
My daughter was starting to have feelings for this guy, thank goodness she did not have a lot of time invested in him, but she is miserable just the same. Not a good time to be miserable here so close to the holidays.
I am still considering that add on Craigs List: Son-in-law wanted. Responsible, Respectful of women, Non-cheater, with no crazy psycho ex-girlfriends.

Happy 53

I drove into Norfolk today to visit my parents. Norfolk is only about 30 miles from where I live, just over the Elizabeth River on the other side of Hampton Roads...closer to the ocean front. I do not see them as often as I should but I try to wipe away those twinges of guilt when I start thinking about it. My father is 91 and my mom is 88. I have been very lucky to have them this long and everyday they are still here is a blessing.

I have a birthday tomorrow; my 53rd. It would be nice if I could live to see my 80's and have a sharp mind and a body that still functions well. It would also be nice to have a grandchild or two. Don't see that happening as long as my daughter keeps dating ASSholes.

The idiot she is hung up on now is another Player. Still the same guy from the last couple of weeks. The problem is that he believes he has her all wrapped up. Once a guy like that thinks he has the girl, he starts treating her differently. My daughter is not good at playing games. She has always been the type of person who puts her feelings out there, and in the past has "worn her heart on her sleeve...now she is trying another type of strategy, one that she is very unfamiliar with. The "Let me play hard to get and pretend I don't care for you as much as you think I do" tactic. I keep telling her, "Quit worrying about him and go out with someone else." Stupid remark to make because at this point she won't listen to any common sense...especially from me. I told her the other day I was considering putting her profile on E Harmony or Match. She was insulted of course and replied that she would never lower herself to online dating. "What the hell is the difference between meeting guys online and meeting them at clubs?" I asked. "They all seem to be ASSholes!!!"

Just Answer the Dammed Phone

I call my daughter between 5:30 and 6:00 p.m. every day on her drive home from work just to say hello and ask her how her day has been. Sometimes when I get ready to call, my cell rings and it is her actually calling me. What I hate are those times I call and she is on the line. I hang up, call back 10 or 15 minutes later and she is still on the phone. She knows it's me, she doesn't switch over, just keeps yaking away knowing I am getting impatient. Maybe because she knows it's me and that is the reason she doesn't answer. This is probably true. Lately she hasn't wanted to talk to me much. She knows I don't care for the way she handled new date. I should also know by now that the more negative comments I make about a guy, especially if he is a real ASShole, the more she will defend him. I have never quite understood this phenomenon and I've taken pysch 101! When she was involved with DICKWEED I learned as time went by to just bite my tongue...It's a wonder I have a tongue left considering all the years she wasted with him. Did she hear me throughout any of those years? I believe she did, and now of course she knows I was right, as was all of her friends and anyone else who cared for her . Denial is a terrible thing, it makes you blind and defiant to the truth. In this case the truth being that her good nature is winning over her common sense...once again! At least she is not in love with this guy. She is not sitting around waiting for him, but she gave him the benefit of doubt...still wants to believe he is a decent guy, with a pyscho ex-girlfriend that just can't get involved right now. HA HA! She is going to stay friends with this guy? Why am I not surprised? Time will tell, and in the meantime I guess I will have to start biting my tongue again.